Treating Self-Esteem

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder
​What Is Self-Esteem?

Self- Esteem is often described as a fair-weathered friend here one minute and gone the next. Self-Esteem is how we view our selves in comparison to others.  Individuals well-being can easily be influenced by their self-esteem. Low self-esteem is one of the most common underpinnings of individuals seeking therapy.
Signs of low self-esteem/confidence:

• Frequent negative "I am" statements
• Self -doubt
• Lack of assertiveness
• Avoids new experiences or social setting
• Being indecisive with simple decisions
• Giving up too easily
• Comparing yourself negatively to others
• Slouching, poor eye contact, fidgeting

Why Do I Have Low Self-Esteem?
​Some people develop low self-esteem in childhood. When adults harshly criticize children for mistakes, it's easy to internalize those messages. Negative childhood experiences, such as trauma, child abuse or bullying, can also contribute to low self-esteem.  As an adult experiences such as break ups, loss of employment, and other life changes can impact your self esteem.  

Therapy For Low Self-Esteem .
Therapy teaches you self-compassion. Self-Compassion is loving and treating yourself the way you would a friend in need. Self-compassion is made up of three parts:

1. Self-kindness: Being caring, loving, nurturing, forgiving towards yourself. 
2. Common Humanity: Giving your self the grace to be human and make mistakes.
3. Mindfulness: Balance. Dealing with negative emotions not by ignoring them or exaggerating them but openness and clarity. 

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