“And the day came when the risk to remain in a tight bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” -Anaïs Nin
You appear to have your shit together from the outside, but on the inside, you often feel inadequate. You have a particular way of minimizing your accomplishments by brushing it off to “I just got lucky” when referencing a job, a promotion, college acceptance, graduation—praise on a project, or a speaking engagement. You constantly worry that others will think you don't belong because you feel like you don’t belong (imposter syndrome). You have worked hard to get where you are but still find that you second-guess yourself, criticize every decision, and work extra hours to achieve unobtainable perfectionism. Self-doubt keeps you feeling stuck. You are exhausted. If receiving a compliment, feeling proud of yourself, or if the idea of being kind to yourself makes you cringe, roll your eyes, or feel uncomfortable, then let's talk! You don't have to continue with the negative self-talk, self-doubt, or self-criticism. How does therapy help? Together, we figure out what or who contributed to you not feeling good about yourself. Explore how being critical of yourself serves you. Oftentimes, clients feel being critical of themselves helps them achieve goals, motivates, or holds them accountable. But at the cost of feeling shity with yourself. I help clients see that they can achieve their goals while also being kind to themselves. We replace these negative patterns with new patterns that focus on self-compassion.
"I am beginning to measure myself in strength, not pounds. Sometimes in smiles.
- Laurie Halse Anderson
Empowering You Counseling Services 2008 NW Military Suite 3 San Antonio, TX 78213