When we enter a new relationship, it is easy for us to get caught up in the excitement of something new that we tend to ignore or excuse the unhealthy behavior in our partner. The following red flags should never be ignored.
All couples experience a period of disconnect at some point in their relationship. Issues such as infidelity, constant fighting, lack of intimacy, poor communication and trust can all lead to feeling disconnected from your partner. Couples tend to panic during this time of disconnect. They begin to feel that the relationship is over or that the issues can't be resolved. Once they are in this disconnect couple don’t know how to communicate with each other without attacking each other or shutting down. Communication is the key between couples. It is difficult for couples to remain objective and fair during a heated argument. During the argument, each person normally focuses on the point they are trying to get across not on what their partner is saying.There is no actual listening, understanding or respect taking place. During this time assumptions are made that lead to hurt feelings, and small obstacles turn into huge fights. The daily challenges of raising kids, work, finances and home life leaves little time to focus on relationships. However, this disconnect can be a great opportunity for the relationship to grow and become stronger. Ultimately couples who take the time to understand each other's needs and make an effort to change can be successful
Does Couples Counseling Work?
According to the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapist couples that attended counseling session reported a high satisfaction rating. They reported that 98 percent of the individuals surveyed reported good or excellent experience during couple's therapy. Of those surveyed 97 percent stated they received the help they needed and also the tools needed to maintain their connection. Couples therapy can work if both individuals are willing to put the work and effort to make the necessary changes.
How Does The Process Work?
The first session consists of you and your partner meeting with the counselor. This first session is called an intake. During this time you will discuss your current concerns with the counselor. You will provide as much insight into your relationship as possible. At the end of the session, you and the counselor will develop a plan for how often you would like to attend counseling. Most couples will come on a weekly basis for a couple of weeks and then move to bi-weekly once they are feeling more empowered as a couple. After the first session, you will develop the goals you have for counseling. The counselor will begin to show you both new tools to improve communication.