“And the day came when the risk to remain in a tight bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” -Anaïs Nin
Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and shame are often used interchangeably to describe negative thinking and negative feelings directed at our self. Thinking and feeling negatively about yourself can weigh heavily on your sense worth and wellbeing. Low self-esteem, lack of confidence and shame have a crafty way of disguising themselves in your lives as overthinking, anxiety, anger, perfectionism, overachieving, people pleasing, lack of assertiveness, and avoidance. People often associate low self-esteem with someone walking around with their head down, but that's not always the case. You appear to have your shit together from the outside, but on the inside, you often feel inadequate.You have a particular way of minimizing your accomplishments by brushing it off to “I just got lucky” when referencing a job, a promotion, college acceptance, graduation. praise on a project or speaking engagement. You constantly worry that others will think you don't belong and even worse you feel like you don’t belong (imposter syndrome). You have worked hard to get where you are but still find that you second guess yourself, criticize every decision, and work extra hours to achieve the unobtainable perfectionism. Self-doubt keeps you feeling stuck.You are exhausted.
If you are here reading this, then you may have wondered if maybe your confidence could use a boost or perhaps you have known for some time now but are now ready kick self-doubt to the curb. I am proud of you for taking the first step towards growth, self-love and empowerment. Brace yourself because I'm about to break you off a piece of "shits about to get real" moment.You matter! You are worthy! You are fucking amazing! You don't have to continue with the negative self-talk, self-doubt or self-criticism.Let's work on recognizing your strengths, accepting your flaws and being happy with being you! Let's work on treating yourself with kindness by allowing yourself the grace to make and learn from your mistakes. Let's work on talking to yourself the way you would a good friend, by loving yourself just as you are imperfections and all.Let's work on being authentic and growing towards the best version of you
"I am beginning to measure myself in strength, not pounds. Sometimes in smiles.
- Laurie Halse Anderson
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